The spite, hate, rage, apathy and mild irritation thread...

[Chankgeez]

I've just about had it with hihats.

That's our new band name though. Either that or just "Had it w/ Hi-Hats"

[actual]

The Hoe-Hats.

[waltdogg]

goddamn. i meant to quit my doom band today but just didn't. i don't wanna let anyone down but. i need to focus on taking care of myself and getting my main band's lp finished.

[BetterOffShred]

I'm 37 and haven't been in a real band in like 10 years. I'm a pretty decent musician and I have gear and a car. Fuck. What does it take?

[waltdogg]

you tell me man. i feel drawn and quartered. i've got three other projects pulling at me and it makes me feel like i'm gonna explode.

update: thank fuck. i nutted up, texted my doom "band" about my situation so it's done now. i said i'd take the month off but i have no intention of coming back. it's not a stimulating enough project for me anyways. since the older guitarist and i are still cool i'm gonna keep sharing our storage locker 50/50 and pay for my own monthly membership at our rehearsal studio.

[BetterOffShred]

I'm glad you got some resolution dawg. I just want to find a couple of chill Eses to play music with who aren't little Diva bitches and require constant boner stroking to just play some regular ass jams. I've been in a lot of different types of bands and I always enjoyed the death metal, but these days I would go for even shit like Indie rock or whatever. I just want to jam and create. Man I sound like a little bitch.

We all need a gig

[waltdogg]

well that didn't last long. they think i'm coming back. fuck, this is gonna make things interesting come mid november.

[Kacey Y]

I'm 37 and haven't been in a real band in like 10 years. I'm a pretty decent musician and I have gear and a car. Fuck. What does it take?

I have similar experiences and feelings along these lines. I'm 38, my last serious band broke up in 2008, I haven't played a gig in 5 years, haven't practiced semi-regularly in over 3 years. Just a string of half-assed bands where no one else cares and eventually everyone else just stops showing up or doesn't return calls. So now I'm just down to trying to jam with people every few months and it doesn't go anywhere. I typed out multi paragraph replies about this a few times and I just don't want to put my insides on display, so I'll leave it at that.

[BetterOffShred]

Yeah Man I hear you completely. I'm going to buy that damn Digitech Band in a box pedal that plays basslines and drum beats for you. Real talk. My girlfriend plays violin and is pretty musically inclined, maybe I'll just get her to practice.. haha.

Seriously though the whole music thing is a real ball-buster for me too. I'm not saying I want to go out and tour and be famous, but I'd really like to find some people who want to get down and really make some music. I'm sick of the half-ass stuff too, my time is precious and I'd like to create something decent.

[Kacey Y]

My free time has been close to zero since our second kid was born, but I still manage to carve out enough time to be able to practice once a week and probably work on musical ideas and do some home demos once or twice a week. All for naught, I don't even use all of the free time I have most of the time. I just kind of gave up on music, because it feels like it's for nothing. I write and record a tuner here and there when I have the motivation now. The really frustrating part is I've learned so much from being in bands and recording and producing other bands for decades now that I could totally do a band with a handful of free hours a week and get way more done than anything I've done when I was in my 20's. I totally know how to write songs and practice really efficiently and get stuff done. I get the feeling that drives off more people than it attracts though, as a lot of musicians over 30 who are not touring professionals seem to just want to party and hang out. Which I could see being fun if that's what you wanted to do, but that's just never been what I want out of bands and I guess I treat it more like a (self employed) job that I take seriously but really enjoy. Any other hobby I've down is very process oriented towards completing a specific goal, like wood working or crafts. So I like to have a goal, work on it, finish, learn how to do it better and repeat. People keep telling me to do a solo project, but I'm not a musical genius. I don't have enough all consuming creative vision to just sit in a room and write an album by myself. Having other people to bounce ideas off and be accountable, having a regular schedule, keeps me productive and on task.

[OldGeorge]

I just want there to be more than 1 reliable drummer in the world... 1 more reliable fucking drummer that is not in 14 bands with 2 of them touring

[Kacey Y]

I just want there to be more than 1 reliable drummer in the world... 1 more reliable fucking drummer that is not in 14 bands with 2 of them touring

I have owned drum kits and taken lessons before. I don't have a kit now, but I seriously considered selling some gear to buy a cheap one and start practicing again. That was before I had some other more significant financial demands I need to work out. When I start tossing out hypothetical scenarios about switching drums so I can play regularly in a band of my choosing again to other guitarists and bassists though, they act like I said I want to cut my dick off because I haven't gotten laid in a while.

[OldGeorge]

I just got a super cheap kit to setup and start learning at 32 because of this issue... I would never sell my gear but goddamn it if there just aren't enough drummers

[BetterOffShred]

Yeah man I'd just go over the top and tell them you burned all your stringed instrument gear rather than trying to sell any of it, and switched to drums exclusively and can't even bother to listen to guitar or bass music ever again.

I'm decent at drums and pretty good at bass and guitar (by my own standards) and I could probably pull a Stevie Wonder and record every part (not while blind) but I'm in the same boat creatively. Well that and it wouldn't be good, it'd be OK, but sound like a decent guitarist tried to Superman an album out of his ass. For me half the draw is seeing what other people pull out of me, and vice versa. Playing solo is boring AF and I'd rather be contributing with other people.

[Kacey Y]

Let's start a terrible all drum power trio.